The Start Line: Part 2
A number of emotions can be felt when approaching the start line. A very normal reaction is yawning uncontrollably. You wont be tired but the yawns keep coming. The nerves kick in and you lick your lips and tap your feet on the ground and your finger tips begin to tremble. Being nervous happens to everyone. Some people just hide it better or control it better. Sometimes, nervousness can result in vomiting or a running tummy and loss of appetite. So how best can we control our nerves and why do we get so caught up with anxiety?
1. Self-Consciousness –
We focus too much on ourselves. It is important to realise the PURPOSE of what you are doing more than what other people may think of you. If you have ever given a talk or announced anything in public, you will know that feeling all too well. Suddenly, all eyes are on you and you want to be clear and confident so you rehearse what you want to say in your mind. We worry more about the DELIVERY than the MESSAGE. If we care more about the Message and how it can benefit the listener, the focus comes off us and the Delivery will be so much better. This is also true when you are trying to sell something. If you know the product can benefit someone, you don’t need to overthink how you going to market it to the customer. Understand what it is that you are selling and make it about the product, not about you.
2. Confidence –
Its easy to say just have confidence. Confidence is not something that is birthed overnight. Life can throw some punches that can cripple your confidence and this can go back to your childhood. Developing confidence in a child is one of the greatest things a parent can do. Develop CONFIDENCE not ARROGANCE. There is nothing worse than a person who knows-it-all. They are of no use to anyone. They spoil teams, companies, make things about them and are just plain irritating! Even if your spirit has been crushed in the past and you feel that you are not a confident person, it is not too late to start developing your confidence. The first thing to do is to realise that you want to be Confident. Step up to the Start Line of your confidence race and wait for the words “On your marks – Get Set – Go!” Then begin exercising your confidence. It could be talking louder, or asking for something in a clear and bold way. It could be volunteering to announce something or praying in a group. Talk to yourself in the mirror. Make up a conversation and practice saying things with different tones. I know this might seem weird and uncomfortable, but it will help you to build your confidence.
3. Get in there –
I hate the moment just before I dive in a swimming pool because of the sudden shock of the cold water to my body. I find going in slowly, step by step is a lot harder than just diving in and getting it over and done with. My daughter has to count me down about 3 or 4 times because I hesitate to jump in because of the thought of that cold shock to the system. The best thing to do is get past that point as soon as you can. Once you have started, it becomes so much easier and more enjoyable.
4. Enjoy –
It can be hard to start a conversation with someone, but if you meet a person who is bubbly and full of life, it is such a pleasure to have a conversation with them. You don’t even realise the time that passes because of how interesting and exciting that time becomes. This is a result of crossing the Start Line. Your potential begins to be released and you discover that you are uplifting someone as well as being uplifted yourself. You discover that what you have been holding back can actually be enjoyed.
There is a lot of possibilities that lie ahead of you when you cross the Start Line. Speak up and let your voice be heard. Don’t worry about what people think. Forget about yourself and concentrate on your purpose. Develop your confidence and get in there and make the most of your time! Don’t hesitate to make the changes. The quicker you do, the quicker you will begin to enjoy the race!